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Be careful when you surf Facebook, or your relationship status may go from ``married'' to ``it's complicated,'' researchers warn.
The more time you spend on the social networking site, the more likely you are to feel jealous, according to a study from the University of Guelph.
Amy Muise, lead author of the study, said the jealousy is caused by overexposing partners to triggers.
Facebook jealousy sparks relationship woes: study
Seeded on Sat Aug 8, 2009 11:26 PM EDT
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Based on random discussions with friends and colleagues, I have to say I think this is highly likely.
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#1 - Sat Aug 8, 2009 11:32 PM EDTHmmm, maybe it does. Hard to say. I got a page on there ( and MySpace) with my real name & Pics and no problems so far but some people do and others don't. Honesty is best and discretion is important as well as respect.....
However, it is nice for me to share similar interests w/those who love Witchcraft and support feminism and other human and animal rights...
To be perfectly honest, I think RL has a bigger impact especially since so many people hook at work for their relationships or others common venues such as study or hobbies like sports affairs, travel stuff etc...
On the job relationships are a potential bomb if they don't work out and it's far worse than CL romantic stuff....
Trust me, I've tried this at work 3 times, never ever again.......Never
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity no matter what the source, CL or RL or both.... Not ever a good thing... It's why I broke up w/some guys.... And I'm not jealous nor possessive...when they were and w/o just cause either....
Why can't people respect that the human heart is free?
I'm rambling again.... stop me, please.....
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#2 - Sun Aug 9, 2009 1:41 AM EDTOn the job relationships are a potential bomb if they don't work out and it's far worse than CL romantic stuff....
That's for sure. I've only ever experienced that particular form of hell, and it ended reasonably well (except for ending, I mean), but the whole time I was petrified of the potential explosion. Never again for me, either.
Why can't people respect that the human heart is free?
Pretty simple, I suspect. It's baggage. People bring their own insecurities and missing chunks of their personalities to relationships thinking that a relationship will make them whole. It doesn't. The beautiful thing about a relationship is that it will make two people who are already whole a much more wonderful entity than the sum of their parts....but I am convinced that no relationship will heal a broken human by itself.
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Of course not. A person that's not whole cannot expect another to do that for them.
A human has to learn to love themselves first before they can really love someone else.
Jealousy is still a sign of insecurity regardless of the source whether CL or RL. Baggage is only a reflection of that......
Not computer socializing network can change that.....
- 3 votes
Yep.
Although I also suspect that FB blurs the line between fantasy and reality for some folks; particularly when that hot guy from back in high school shows up....
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Are you kidding? That "hot guy" from high school is fat and balding with 2 divorces behind him, 3 kids and 1 "illegitimate" one ( not the kids fault- I never blame kids for their parent's screwups, but come one, to have one with two women at the same time and your first wife leave 'cause the mistress having a baby too) and many exes in the tow the puto that he is and was. Only he still has is the deep baritone and the 6'2" and that's it. Heh! He wishes I be wife #3, but not w/that history.....Sorry Miguel, pero no.... Shame, he was hot in his day..... Yeah, I know TMI..... had to clarify that not all of us dream about high school "hotties."
I'm the one who still looks the same overall.......
FB and Myspace and other comp. socializing and/or dating services can blur but let's be honest, CL cannot compare to RL when it comes down to it reality.
But, as devil's advocate ( though I'm anti-jealousy/anti-possessive activist) I've known at least 10 people in my colleague circle that found SOs and/or new spouses that way via comp. socializing circles. The horror stories I've seen only on "Dateline" or the 11 o'clock news still though being careful is important and I won't underscore that. I've never tried it for that though.... I feel local is usually better unless you prefer flings or nonpersonal FWBs ( friends w/benefits deal- not bad and worth trying, I might add), then distance is much better....no messy complications nor entanglements........
Jealousy is for people that are insecure and cannot comprehend why trust is important in any committed relationship, and why lack of such can destroy one in the first place. Ditto w/ the possessiveness. No computer social circle can mask that nor change it. FB and other circles are only a reflection of the technology of our times, but not of the human fallacies and foibles which have existed forever....
Got to know how to love yourself right first before really knowing how to love anyone else no matter what kind of relationship and jealousy/possessiveness will ruin that......
People's hearts are free, just like butterlies and lilies......
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The lack of context is a big problem, for sure. I posted this to my FB page:-)
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#3 - Sun Aug 9, 2009 5:27 PM EDTThis bit of advice makes it easy...ready?
DON'T POST YOUR ENTIRE LIFE ON-LINE!
Wow, wasnt that profound?!? Wasnt that such a simple solution?!? If you dont want something to be known, or dont want people to discuss things about you that arent their business to begin with, dont put it online. If you arent sure if someone is going to give you any grief over something, again, dont put it online. No one said you have to put your entire life on these social sites. I have both a Facebook and a Myspace page, but the only thing on there thats personal is where I went to school minus the graduation year, and my name. There is nothing on there that anyone in the general population needs to know. Amazingly, my life has not become a soap opera because there is nothing on there for anyone to start rumors about.
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#4 - Mon Aug 10, 2009 6:32 AM EDTthat's part of the reason why I avoid nerdbook and dorkspace.... I've grown up from the childish tendacies of jealousy and lack of trust.
my wife is all over facebook (claiming to have 300+ friends). but I want to have nothing to do with it, so she lives her life online without my input/interference.
I completely agree with Lilith41 when she said, "Jealousy is a sign of insecurity no matter what the source"..... I am very secure, so I don't need to checkup on my wife/friends.
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#5 - Mon Aug 10, 2009 10:15 AM EDTWill and Jake you are both right on! If people don't want probs w/private info. then why share it on the internet? I don't here about myself either on my bio.
That's why so many get so insecure about all that being rehashed all over the place, the only difference is the technology makes it easier to divulge VS the village gossip of yesteryear.....
Heh! My pages really have my Grad date and interests too but that's it really.....
Insecure people will always have problems w/ SOs whether technology or not. Go figure. Sad....
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